Not too long ago, a friend sent out an S.O.S. on Facebook that went something like this…
“My hubby and I are wondering what the reward is if we make it through this stage of our child’s life alive. #twoishard #weareexhausted.”
The commenters fell into two camps:
- The “I’m right there with ya, girlfriend” mamas who affirmed the weariness she described and relayed their best terrible twos stories.
- The “I’ve been there, girlfriend” mamas who affirmed the weariness she described and encouraged her to slow down and treasure these fleeting moments.
Not gonna lie…sometimes I wanna punch those “slow down” mamas in the face. Don’t they realize just how HARD this is?
Ironically, today I’m the one over at Desiring God encouraging weary mamas to slow down.
Please resist the urge to punch me in the face.
I’m an official card-carrying member of the weary mom club. I know you’re weary. I feel your pain. “I’m right there with ya, girlfriend.”
And because I’m right there with you, I also know firsthand that we can’t slow down in our own strength because we are weak, feeble people. The only way we can offer our children glimpses of God’s comforting love is through his strength, not our own.
How does God strengthen weary moms?
Today, we’ll look at three means of grace God uses to strengthen us: the gospel, his word, and community. Each one a precious gift for the weary mom.
God will strengthen the weary mom through the gospel.
The gospel is the “power of God for salvation to everyone who believes.” (Romans 1:16)
God so loved you, weary mom, that he gave his only son to die for you.
But he didn’t stop there. The Bible says that if you are in Christ, this same power is presently at work within you. (Romans 1:16)
Let that sink in.
While you may feel weak and weary, the very power of God is at work within you.
Jesus is no stranger to weariness. Imagine the utter exhaustion he must have endured during his time on earth–caring for hundreds of thousands of souls, suffering at the hands of sinners, faithfully carrying out his father’s will.
He understands our weariness, and he died so that we might be free from it. “Come to me, all who are weary and heavy laden” Jesus calls to us, “and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)
When we consider Christ–when we come to him and really consider all that he is and all that he has done–we can’t help but find rest.
“Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted.” – Hebrews 12:3
As we remember the power of the gospel, the worries of the day don’t disappear, but they lose their power over us. Yes, my boys may be fighting over the blue light saber for the hundredth time, and yes there may be heaps of laundry and dishes that need my attention, but that all suddenly shrinks down to size when I consider the magnitude of the gospel.
Plus, the gospel allows me to handle those situations and tasks with love and grace.
The gospel says I can love my kids when they’re downright unlovable because Christ loved me first. (1 John 4:19)
The gospel tells me that I need not grow weary in disciplining them because I know that I will reap an eternal reward. (Galatians 6:9)
The gospel says that I can, indeed, sing “Jesus Loves Me” over and over and over again when my son is scared because that same Jesus I sing of loves me and bears with me when I am the one who is afraid. (Psalm 18:6)
The gospel is the power of God at work within you, weary mama. Today, when you feel like you’re at your limit, consider Christ and allow him to give you much-needed rest through the power of the gospel.
God will strengthen the weary mom through his word.
Where do we find gospel truths and promises to strengthen our souls? David answers this question for us in Psalm 119.
“Strengthen me according to you word.”
The Bible is full of encouragement and strength for our weary souls. Its pages are overflowing with sweet reminders of God’s faithfulness and unchanging character. We just need to open it.
But that involves time, you may say. And I just don’t have any.
Trust me, sister, when I say that I often feel the same way. It’s hard to make time for God’s word when you’re keeping little people alive. But you know what’s harder? Trying to keep little people alive without it. We need the strength that God’s word offers us, and we have to fight for it.
Keep a bible open on the kitchen counter. Write one verse on a few index cards and lay them around the house. Read a few verses at the kitchen table with your kids. Dare I say it, read a chapter while you’re on the toilet.
You have to make time, mama. These words are too powerful to pass up.
God will strengthen the weary mom through community.
I don’t know about you, but when I’m weary, I’m tempted to go into isolation. Just the thought of play dates or small group meetings or women’s ministry gatherings overwhelms me.
But do a quick search of the word “strengthen” and you’ll quickly see that throughout the Bible, God often uses community to strengthen weary Christians.
Take Jonathan, for example, who God used to strengthen David when he was afraid for his life. The Bible says that Jonathan strengthened David’s “hand in God.” (1 Samuel 23:16) Yes, even the man after God’s own heart needed to be reminded of God’s promises and pointed back to Christ by a friend.
God doesn’t need us to strengthen his people. There’s enough power in his little finger to strengthen all of his children entirely on his own. But how gracious of him to allow us to strengthen and be strengthened by fellow believers!
When you remind another mama that God sees her (Genesis 16:13), God is using you to strengthen her.
When you open your heart up to another mom and she speaks truth in love to you (Ephesians 4:15), God is using her sweet words to strengthen you.
Often times it does take someone else to look at your situation and speak gospel truth into it. By encouraging one another and stirring each other up to love and good works, we are doing the good work of strengthening each other in the Lord. (Hebrews 10:24-25)
Take Heart, Weary Mom
If you find yourself at the end of your rope today, weary mom, take heart. Our all-powerful God is eagerly waiting to strengthen you through the gospel, his word, and community.
His power is made perfect in your weakness, so rest in his soul-sustaining grace today. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
My hope is that God will use this little blog to strengthen your soul. Subscribe today so we can stay connected and receive a free copy of my poem, “A Mother’s Offering.”